When the day gets too much to bear, we all need a gesture, a line or two, to keep us on our feet.
As a 20-something adult, the pressure constantly grows. There is the responsibility to be able to deliver what’s expected of us from work, there’s our family who’s longing for time and assistance, our special someone waiting for committed affection, our social life that’s slowly becoming elbowed, and there is you, trying your best to do all those above without falling apart.
There are going to be countless bumps on the road ahead and if we’re lucky, only if, we get to dodge some (but I assure you, never all of it). So it’s okay to want to ask for help, there is no shame! Let’s face it, it’s not every day you can keep it together.
I’ve sourced some effective (at least for me) pieces of advice from movies that we can use to shield ourselves from our own demons when the going gets tough:
1. The Theory of Everything (2014)
“There should be no boundaries to human endeavor. We are all different. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. While there’s life, there is hope.” – Stephen Hawking, The Theory of Everything (2014)
Never mind the downers—they will always be there to doubt your capabilities even though you’ve given your best. Take it from the man who understood black holes himself! If you love what you are doing, keep on giving it your all and let people exhaust themselves by believing you can’t. Hope springs fucking eternal. Get through today and there’s a 99% chance you will again tomorrow.
2. Life of Pi (2012)
Doubt is useful, it keeps faith a living thing. After all, you cannot know the strength of your faith until it is tested. – Pi Patel, Life of Pi (2012)
Most of the time, our biggest enemy is ourselves. It is unavoidable to doubt your own strengths especially when it gets backed up by the circumstances that happen around you. But put that doubt to use and shape it into something that will make you unbreakable. How will I react to my officemate who hates me for no reason? I won’t question myself and I’ll just accept that you cannot please everyone. That way, you don’t waste your time blaming yourself and save time looking for a bad thing you think you’ve done. You’ll learn to dodge as many bullets as you can.
3. Finding Dory (2016)
Dory: What is so great about plans? I never had a plan! Did I plan to lose my parents? No. Did I plan to find Marlin? No. Did you and I plan to meet? Wait. Did we?
Hank: Are you almost done?
Dory: Well, I don’t think we did. And that’s because the best things happen by chance. Because that’s life. And that’s you being with me out in the ocean, not safe in some stupid glass box. – Finding Dory (2016)
No one’s ever completely ready in this world. So you think you’ve got it all figured out by going to your dream college and pursuing the job of your dreams, but you get sucked into a toxic work environment that will make you question your choices. And just like that, you are back at square one. Dory’s tip for you is to let it be, let things unfold before you. Stop stressing that “long-term plan” of yours that might never even happen. Embrace sudden turn of events. Welcome yourself to where it’s headed.
4. Cloud Atlas (2012)
Haskell Moore: No matter what you do it will never amount to anything more than a single drop in a limitless ocean.
Adam Ewing: What is an ocean but a multitude of drops? – Cloud Atlas (2012)
Never allow any one to say you’re not enough and that you are unworthy. Best believe you are bound for great things. It might be taking too long to reach that goal you set five years ago, or you’re deprived of the credit that’s due for you, remember that all your efforts are not in vain. Every small thing you accomplish contribute to the betterment of something big. No, helping your 80-year-old boss get a hang of Facebook does not mean nothing. No, attending a meeting as a warm body is not a waste of time. All those little drops go to a limitless ocean and equip you to greater waves in the future.
I love Cloud Atlas so much so I will end with another quote from it: Captain Molyneux: When life gives you lemons, you make apple juice.
Take it easy. Yes, at this time in your life, you have to start making serious decisions but there is so much more to it than where you’re at right now. Don’t give all your time and energy to something that is supposed to be just a mere aspect.
Your life is now, for God’s sake, make something delicious out of it.