Before your season comes, take some time to align with yourself and fully reflect on the current state of your life. Are your needs being met? Could you say you’re happy with your current situation? Only by listening to yourself can you figure out what’s good for you. Only by understanding your own needs will you realize if there is anything that needs to be changed. You know your gut feeling has been telling you something, but the question that remains is what. That is for you to figure out, and for you to address.

Listen to: “No Pressure” by Mahalia

Must-watch: Easy A (2010)

Keep in mind:

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.

Iyanla Vanzant
Art by Anna Dittman

If you allow your own voice to be drowned out by the noise of the world, the expectations of society, the needs of other people, or anything else that isn’t you, you begin to lose yourself. You lose an opportunity to be authentic, and to take care of yourself in the most meaningful way possible. You’ll confuse your needs with the world’s expectations. More than just being a form of self-care, taking time to listen to yourself is ultimately a form of self-preservation.