You might not want to hear this, Virgo, but has it ever occurred to you that it’s not always your job to fix other people? At the end of the day, you can be there for them, love them, give them your time, but at the end of the day, it will always, always, be the decision of the other person to get better. And if your sense of purpose comes from a need to take messes and fix them, you will break your heart more times than you should. Boundaries are important, healthy, and ultimately, necessary. Know when you’ve done all you can for someone, and know when to stop. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is give them the chance to help themselves. This in itself, though seemingly ruthless, could also be considered an act of love.

Listen to: “Lonely Weekend” by Kacey Musgraves

Must-watch: Beautiful Boy (2019)

Keep in mind:

You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behavior change.

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Just to be clear: there’s nothing wrong with being helpful and wanting the best for others. The boundaries are set for those who constantly choose to be beaten down and defeated, and those who cause you to feel guilty by your inability to change their situation for them. The boundaries are set for those who are causing damage to you, whether they intend to or not. Distance yourself from these types of people. Everyone deserves your love, but not everyone deserves the space they occupy in your already busy brain.